The 6 main reasons for indecision
What are the key reasons for indecision and how do we overcome them? There are many reasons why people find it difficult to make decisions at various points in their life. Or if they do make decisions, why they sometime find it difficult to stick to them and follow through with appropriate actions. Here I offer what I think are the 6 main reasons for indecision and 6 key tips for overcoming these reasons.
- Paralysis by analysis
It is rare that we have all the facts necessary to make decisions that will affect our future (especially big decisions) and so we can become indecisive. This can be especially relevant to those folks who have a propensity to over-analyse, falling into paralysis by analysis.
The tip here is not to over think it and tap into your intuition.
- Limiting beliefs
But even if we do have all the facts we can often remain indecisive because we have become locked into the past; past people, past events, past patterns and behaviours. This can create a feeling of not being able to let go and so not being able to make that important decision. Connected to this is when people believe themselves to be dependent on others and so feel they can’t make independent decisions. This is a really debilitating state to be in and is derived from our limiting beliefs. As Anthony Robbins so rightly points out, our limiting beliefs are those beliefs we hold that are no longer empowering us.
The key tip here is to work on reducing and eliminating your limiting beliefs.
For others there is a tendency to find distractions as a means of not having to make a decision. Unfortunately, these great distractors are likely to end up having a decision forced upon them for good or ill.
So the tip here is to learn to focus and to accept the responsibility for your own life.
However, sometimes people find it difficult to make a decision simply through laziness. This can be as simple as people not wanting to be put out in any way, or being unwilling to step outside their comfort zone. So it is easier to make no decision than it is to commit to a course of action. It is important to realise that making no decision is a decision in its own right, just not a very proactive and positive decision.
The tip here is to take control of your life and your commitment to purposeful decision making.
- Stress and anxiety
Also, making decisions, especially if they are big ones, can be stressful. As I mention in my ebooklet ‘How to build trust’ anxiety can lead to us shutting down and so we feel unable to make a decision. It is important we recognise just how much emotions influence our decision making process. For more clarity it will be important to change your emotional state.
There are a number of ways you can change your emotional state. You can change the language you use, so rather than saying “I’m stressed” you could say “I’m interested to…” This is particularly good when matched to the power of questions. When you feel stressed you could ask “What do I want to feel instead?” And to enhance this you could change your bodily posture; your movement. Stand up straight, jump up and down, skip. All these will support you to disrupt your state of feeling stressed and support you on the road to making that all important decision.
The key tip here is to change your emotional state to change your decision making potential.
- Lack of purpose
But for many the difficulties around decision making are more to do with a lack of clarity on their purpose or direction, and so no clear sense of what the decision should be through not knowing where you want the decision to take you. As Margie Warrell said in Forbes “A clear sense of purpose enables you to focus your efforts on what matters most…”
And so the tip here is to know your purpose.
Bringing it all together
Making decisions is by no means straight forward. Yet we make them every day of our lives. The trick is to be able to make consistently effective decisions. For that to happen you need clarity on your long term purpose, have a clear commitment to purposeful decision making, have accepted responsibility for your life, worked to reduce your limiting beliefs and understand the mechanism for changing your state. All of this within raised awareness of your own default personality traits. Decide to and you can.
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