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Are you too busy to take action?

Activity is derived from the restless mind, which is equivalent to a state of mindlessness. While action is derived from the silent mind, a state of mindfulness.   Activity is the great escape from the self. It is a kind of drug to help us forget our-self or our situation. It has become an obsession […]

What is mindfulness coaching?

In her fabulous book Mindful Coaching Liz Hall states;   “mindfulness has gone mainstream … it has helped us to build an impressive evidence base, a vocabulary which allows us to discuss what it means to be human, and has helped us to widen access to the transformative and healing potential of mindfulness.”   It […]

Connecting to the spirit within

Anodea Judith wrote, in her book Chakras: Seven keys to awakening and healing the energy body, “We are all on a journey. A journey to heal ourselves, to figure out what life’s all about, to discover the deeper mysteries.”   This sounds all very … well, mysterious.   What does it all mean?   Many […]

What is spiritual life coaching?

Karen E. Wells, in her Professional Spirituality Coach Diploma, teaches that “Spiritual growth is about challenging all that you are and all that you want to be.”   This is a big ask!   Especially so for us in the Western world, where we shy away from discussing spiritual beliefs. Particularly for those of us […]

A mindfulness approach to the body

Mindfulness starts with the body.   Mindfulness is about expanding our conscious awareness, connecting with ‘what is’. What is, in the here and now, as experienced through our body.   There are usually seen as three ways to see (1) with the eyes (2) with our reasoning (3) with the heart. In ‘The Wise Mind […]

How to reduce stress around sexual identity

It has long been accepted that the strain of ones sexual orientation (identity, attraction, behaviour) can make for stress vulnerability.   But hold on a minute, lets clarify a few points.   First, stress. We hear this word banded about, but what do we actually mean when we talk of stress? The word ‘stress’ is […]

How to set New Year resolutions that DO succeed

December is generally seen as a time to reflect. What has happened over the past year? What can you learn from this? What will you do in the new year?   December is also a time to consider your new year resolutions and plan for your future. It is a time (as in winter wonderland) […]

LGBT, and taking the steps beyond socialisation

Morris Massey put forward the notion that there are three key stages in development, which sits very much within the traditional model of child development, such as Kieran Egan’s Cognitive Tools Theory.   First there is the copying or imprinting stage. This stage is usually seen to last until about seven years of age. Through […]

How to build self-worth

Coming out can be traumatic for some and a breeze for others. There are as many experiences as there are people who have come out as LGBT+. The concern, anxiety or stress many feel in coming out tends to have two aspects (1) the practical responses of others, and (2) what this means for our […]

How reframing helps us change

In my recent article How free are you: Limiting beliefs and how to modify them I suggested that the key is to clarify your current beliefs so you can determine what future beliefs you would like to hold and enact. I offered a who, how, what approach through which to do this, where who equates […]